Here are some quotes from real brides:
“I have a huge dilemna…I purchased a red wedding dress and it has seemed to cause an uproar with my future in laws. My fiance and I have been together for 8 years, we have a 4 month old daughter and are having a very simple, low key civil ceremony. I saw this dress at David’s Bridal and fell in love with it. Is it so horrible that it is red and not the traditional white??? Please help!!!”
“You know what its whatever makes you happy I myself have a red dress. In fact I had mine custom made and was getting all kinds of hell from diffrent seamstress i interviewed. Then my family joined in. They finaly shut up when i sat everyone down and explained it like this. Its MY wedding I PAID for the dress and IM kthe one that has to wear it. If you dont like show me a check or shut the hell up. “
Granted my way was a bit mean tempered but when you find the perfect dress who cares what anybody else has to say.”
In many of the replies were some similar to what one person said, “Honestly, it’s your wedding, do it your way.”
Some may say red is the color for lust. Red is the liturgical color for martyrs.
Is this the kind of reactions you want to get when you fall in love with a red wedding dress from your family and friends? It certainly would ruin my day to know that many people have a negative stigma and may be talking things behind my back. What is a bride to do?! While it is the bride’s day afterall, does it give the bride the absolute decision to do things her way? While saying do what you want and forget about what others think is easy, in practice and reality it is much harder! You certainly do not want to create any disconnect with important family members or someone close to you having a big frown on their face on the happiest day of your life. Talk it over to your close families that may have issues with red on your wedding day and express how important it is for you of this day and how much you want red. Go for the diplomatic approach.
In other cultures such as Chinese, red is a lucky color. It is not shocking one bit for a Chinese bride to adorn a complete red outfit. It is often Chinese bride wears a red outfit on her wedding day. India is another culture that adorns red wedding outfit. It is the norm then being a bold statement in India.
White is traditional in western culture because it connotates purity, which is what a wife is supposed to be on her wedding day. But nowadays, brides are wearing off-white and even pastels commonly. Brides wear white at their second and third weddings, too, and everyone knows they aren’t virgins! We all know most brides are not virgins these days, so hopefully no one is going to snicker because you are not wearing white. If you want to make a statement, wear red.
Demetrios SL7
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